The other day while doing something on my computer, I noticed that my email inbox always had at least 2 or 3 emails marked "unread", even if I had already read them. These simply represent tasks that can wait a little longer and that you could do later. With the mentality that I try to apply in my day-to-day to be present and observe myself, a sudden impulse came to me. What do I gain from having a few emails without working? How does it make me feel that and where else does it apply in my life? And I realized that I do exactly the same with my phone messages on WhatsApp or sometimes on other social networks.
After searching for the answers inside of me, I realized that this behavior generates a little anxiety in me, giving me the feeling that something, no matter how small, needs to be done and it gives me a little uneasiness. Indeed, those are all emotions that have haunted me to a greater or lesser extent for most of my life. But then, if they are relatively unpleasant emotions, how is it that I keep generating situations that allow me to feel that, even a little bit? The answer to this is that I, like most of us, identify with a state of being, which is usually thoughts, emotions and actions or behaviors, which are often unconscious and are part of who we think we are. In my case, anxiety has been an emotion with which I have identified almost all my life, for which I have felt identified with it and subconsciously I have been creating situations that allow me to remind myself who I think I am, such as through the unworked messages and emails.
Once I realized this, and accepted it without judgment, I consciously decided that I do not want to continue identifying with those emotions or reinforcing them through my subconscious actions, which in this case are taking a toll on my own efficiency in dealing with messages, and it is leaving me with that uneasy feeling that leaves me nothing positive. It was amazing to realize how I myself generate the situations that make me feel like what is subconsciously familiar to me.
These ego emotions are usually addictive, and they are the ones that generate the greatest resistance when wanting to change, generating a certain withdrawal syndrome when trying to change. For example, if you tend to be upset or annoyed for a large part of your day and you start to question it, instead of seeing it as "that's how I am", you will realize that a large part of the actions you take and the situations you attract reinforce that annoyance in you.
Life and our own cloud of energy through our subconscious usually attract us and generate these situations so that we learn more than we are deep down, experiencing what we are not. Thus, when the suffering becomes too much and we finally wake up and realize what we are doing, a tiny light appears in the darkness that illuminates what is out of place, and that is when the window is opened to change our behavior.
When we begin the process of change, many times the body tends to scream and generate those emotions in a stronger way, feeling lost and confused because it is not receiving the same dose of chemicals (i.e., emotions) to which it is accustomed. But being aware of this withdrawal syndrome of the body and understanding that it is temporary, and that the body is not the one in control but ourselves, can allow us to go out to the other side of the tunnel freer of those old layers of neurological circuits that, despite they having had fulfilled their function in the past, are now ready to be replaced.
Based on my experience above, I want to leave you the following steps to notice and remove subconscious behaviors that reinforce our identity, and thus give us the opportunity to remove another layer of ego to get a little closer to our essence and thus think, feel and act. in a way that maximizes our potential:
1. Observe yourself in your day-to-day: what emotions predominate in your day with which you think you are identified? If you sit down to meditate, how does it feel to be "me"? Where does it feel in your body? This will allow you to be present with your emotions, without adding thoughts that reinforce or judge them, and so you can recognize them when they arise again. Write down your top 3 emotions that you have the most in your day.
2. Identify an emotion that you no longer want to identify with: These are usually catabolic emotions such as anger, anxiety, worry or nervousness, mistrust, helplessness, frustration, guilt, and so on. Be careful, this does not mean that you should not feel those emotions, if situations arise that generate them, it is important to recognize and feel them and not repress them since that can generate more anxiety or discomfort, but it does not mean that you should reinforce them with your thoughts and actions.
3. Identify the thought patterns and actions/behaviors in your day-to-day life that are reinforcing that emotion, and thus reinforcing your emotional identity.
4. Find new thoughts and an action plan that can replace those thought patterns and actions/behaviors you found in step number 3.
5. Be aware of the old reactions and thoughts, and return to your new self with the new thoughts and actions. You can use a mantra or an anchor that brings you back to the present and takes you out of your old emotional identification.
For example, if you realize that anger is one of your emotions that you feel the most, you may ask yourself, how much of the drama that is created in your day-to-day is really caused by yourself without realizing it in order to have that dose of anger? Or if you suffer from low self-esteem, what situations do you create yourself that remind you of how little value you think you are and that generate those emotions in you? What thoughts are behind this and what can you replace them with? Once you identify this, you can use a mantra such as: "I am valuable and I don't have to believe everything my mind says about me", and then act differently than you normally would, which would otherwise only reinforce that identity to which you're so used to it.
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